March 08 2021 – Mike Yarbrough
So you've been chosen to be a groomsman. Congratulations! But what does that mean exactly?
Contrary to what you might believe, the groomsmen’s duties go beyond simply showing up well-dressed on the wedding day. Read on to learn more about what's expected of a groomsman before, during, and after the big day.
Groomsmen Duties Before the Wedding
Get Dressed Up
Typically, groomsmen are in charge of picking up and paying for their own formalwear. The bride and groom will usually offer some guidance as to the type of suit or tux the groomsmen are expected to get—you may or may not have input on this—but assembling, buying or renting, and tailoring your wedding clothes is up to you.
Help Plan the Bachelor Party
Throwing a bachelor party for the groom-to-be is traditionally the best man's job, but be ready to lend a helping hand. These days, it's common for all the groomsmen to pull together to help plan (and sometimes chip in to pay for) the bachelor party.
Go to the Pre-Wedding Events
Groomsmen are expected to attend all the major pre-wedding events along with the rest of the wedding party. This includes any engagement parties and co-ed showers that may occur, but especially the bachelor party and rehearsal dinner. Don't beat yourself up about making multiple trips if you're an out-of-town groomsman, but if you live nearby, you should make every effort to be there.
Don't Forget Your Accessories
Make sure you have all the proper accessories to go with your suit or tux. The basics include a tie, socks, cufflinks, shoes, and possibly a boutonniere or cummerbund.
Be There for the Groom
The most critical groomsman duty is one of support. If the groom needs help with anything, be ready to lend an ear or a helping hand. You may be asked for advice in picking out the rings, to assist the groom in getting ready on the wedding day, or to help ease pre-wedding jitters. Just be prepared to be there for your friend, and you'll have one of the biggest groomsmen duties taken care of.
Groomsmen Duties on the Wedding Day
Show Up on Time
Every wedding day has its own unique timeline. However the day may start, make sure you know where you need to go, and when. Show up bright-eyed, well dressed, ready for anything, and of course, on time.
Smile and Pose
Wedding photos are typically taken early on the wedding day and the groomsmen and bridesmaids are expected to be in at least a few of them. Posing for photographs is a big part of the groomsmen duties, so be where you need to be and try to bring an up-for-anything attitude.
Give the Ushers a Hand
When the guests start arriving all at once before the wedding ceremony, the ushers can easily become overwhelmed. Stand by in case the ushers need help escorting guests to their seats.
Answer Guest Questions
It's a good idea for groomsmen to get to know the wedding venue -- for both the ceremony and the reception -- should any guests have questions or require assistance. Where's the restroom? Which way to the bar? That kind of thing.
Be the Life of the Party
One of the best things you can do as a groomsman is to help everybody have a good time at the reception. Be chatty with the guests, get people mingling, dance with the bridesmaids, and do everything you can to ensure a good time is had by all. Have a couple drinks (just a couple) and stick around at the end to help cleanup.
Groomsmen Duties After the Wedding
If there are out-of-town wedding guests who need rides to the airport or the train station, groomsmen are often expected to help by offering transportation.
Return Your Suit
Is your suit or tuxedo a rental? Some rental companies expect garments to be returned the day after an event. Know when your suit needs to be returned so you don't get stuck with a late fee.
Get Some Rest
You've worked hard and are likely a little tired. So get some rest! You've earned it.
What About the Best Man?
In addition to all of the same duties as the groomsmen, the best man -- like the maid of honor -- will have a few special responsibilities. Mostly, this means acting as the groom’s right-hand man. As we mentioned, the best man is usually tasked with planning the bachelor party. His other pre-wedding duties involve helping the other groomsmen pick out their wedding attire, as well as a gift for the groom. During the wedding, the best man helps greet the guests, holds the wedding rings and gives a toast during the reception. When the wedding festivities end, the best man should also be the one tipping the wedding vendors, collecting gift envelopes for the newlyweds, and making sure all rented tuxes are returned on time.
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