September 14 2022 – Mike Yarbrough
So you've been chosen to be a groomsman. Congratulations! But what does that mean exactly?
Contrary to what you might believe, the groomsmen’s duties go beyond simply showing up well-dressed on the wedding day. Learn what's expected of a groomsman before, during, and after the big day.
Groomsmen Duties Before the Wedding
Get Dressed Up
Typically, groomsmen are in charge of picking up and paying for their own formalwear. The bride and groom will usually offer some guidance as to the type of suit or tux the groomsmen are expected to get—you may or may not have input on this—but assembling, buying or renting, and tailoring your wedding clothes is up to you.
Help Plan the Bachelor Party
Throwing a bachelor party for the groom-to-be is traditionally the best man's job, but be ready to lend a helping hand. These days, it's common for all the groomsmen to pull together to help plan (and sometimes chip in to pay for) the bachelor party.
Go to the Pre-Wedding Events
Like the rest of the wedding party, groomsmen are expected to attend all the major pre-wedding events. This includes any engagement parties and co-ed showers, but especially the bachelor party and rehearsal dinner. Don't beat yourself up about making multiple trips if you're an out-of-town groomsman, but if you live nearby, you should make every effort to be there.
Don't Forget Your Accessories
Make sure you have all the proper accessories to w your suit or tux. The basics include a tie, socks, cufflinks, shoes, and possibly a boutonniere or cummerbund.
Be There for the Groom
The most critical groomsman's duty is one of support. If the groom needs help with anything, be ready to lend an ear or a helping hand. You may be asked for advice in picking out the rings, to assist the groom in getting ready on the wedding day, or to help ease pre-wedding jitters. Just be prepared to be there for your friend, and you'll have one of the top groomsmen's duties taken care of.
Groomsmen Duties on the Wedding Day
Show Up on Time
Every wedding day has its own unique timeline. Regardless of how the day starts, verify where you need to go and when. Show up bright-eyed, well dressed, ready for anything, and of course, on time.
Smile and Pose
Wedding photos are typically taken early on the wedding day, and the groomsmen and bridesmaids need to be ready. Posing for photographs is a big part of the groomsmen's duties, so be where you need to be and try to bring an up-for-anything attitude.
Give the Ushers a Hand
It is easy for ushers to become overwhelmed if guests arrive all at once. Stand by in case the ushers need help escorting guests to their seats.
Answer Guest Questions
It's a good idea for groomsmen to get to know the wedding venue -- for both the ceremony and the reception -- should any guests have questions or require assistance. Where's the restroom? Which way to the bar? That kind of thing.
Be the Life of the Party
One of the best things you can do as a groomsman is to help everybody have a good time at the reception. Be chatty with the guests, get people mingling, dance with the bridesmaids, and do all you can to ensure everyone has a great time. Have a couple of drinks (just a couple) and stick around at the end to help clean up.
Groomsmen Duties After the Wedding
Groomsmen usually offer transportation to out-of-town wedding guests who need rides to the airport or train station.
Return Your Suit
Is your suit or tuxedo a rental? Some rental companies expect garments returned the day after an event. Find out when you need to take back the suits to avoid late fees.
Get Some Rest
You've worked hard and are likely a little tired. So get some rest! You've earned it.
What About the Best Man?
A best man will also have a few extra responsibilities. Mostly, this means acting as the groom’s right-hand man. As we mentioned, the best man usually plans the bachelor party. His other pre-wedding duties involve helping the other groomsmen pick out their wedding attire and finding a gift for the groom. During the wedding, the best man helps greet the guests, holds the wedding rings, and gives a toast during the reception. When the wedding festivities end, the best man should also be the one tipping the wedding vendors, collecting gift envelopes for the newlyweds, and making sure all rented tuxes are returned on time.
How to Say Thank You To Your Groomsmen
It’s an honor when a friend asks you to be in their wedding. It’s a special moment in a friendship when you can stand by your friend as he commits to a loving relationship. Even with all of the honor that comes with being a groomsman, the groomsman’s role comes with many responsibilities. It’s important for grooms to also show their appreciation to their groomsmen at some point either pre or post-wedding. This gesture of appreciation can be shown through a thoughtful thank you note, a couple of rounds of beer, or a hand-select gift for your groomsmen.
How to Give a Groomsman Gift
Giving a groomsmen gift is a great way to show appreciation to your groomsman, but what’s the best way to go about giving it? There is more than one way to present gifts to your groomsmen, but the right one will resonate with you.
Matching Groomsmen Gifts
Giving matching groomsmen gifts is a great way to show camaraderie. You can even present your friends with matching gifts at a group groomsmen proposal! It also makes gift-giving less stressful, especially for couples with large bridal parties. Plus, everyone gets the same gift, so it helps lessen the burden of decision-making while making everyone feel included.
Sometimes, it's harder to find a matching gift that every groomsman would appreciate. Don't be afraid to mix up your groomsmen gift selection. While matching gifts are fun and fair, a gift selected just for your friend will always feel more special. Just make sure to keep the cost of each present around the same price.
Ultimately, pick a setting where everyone is comfortable. Maybe your group of friends does everything all together, or you prefer talking one and one with each guy. Choose whichever setting feels best for you and your group.
Groomsmen proposal gifts are great, but they aren't required. It's not an issue to give a groomsmen gift post-wedding, but many grooms give them beforehand to avoid forgetting or giving it too late.
Rustic & Main’s Curated Selection of Made in USA Groomsmen Gifts
Rustic & Main is now offering a curated selection of high-quality groomsmen gifts from some of our favorite American-Made brands. The memories of your wedding day will last a lifetime, and so will these high-quality timeless gifts for guys.
Here are a few suggestions from our Groomsmen Gift Collection!
Bradley Mountain Waxed Canvas Tote Bag
This versatile canvas tote bag is great for a quick weekend trip or foragingfor your favorite finds in the forest. Bradley Mountain gives each bag a lifetime guarantee and will repair any bag for free.
Black Lantern Whiskey Glass Set
These nature-themed whiskey rock glasses are more than just something to put your whiskey in. Each set features original, nature-themed illustrations!! All whiskey glass sets come in a set of 2 11 oz.
Blackbeard Beard Butter
This is the perfect gift for any beard fellow. Wolf & Iron's line of natural, historic theme beard products are great quality and have a story and theme behind them.
Golden Age Supply Genuine Leather Guitar Pic Keychain
This is a gift any guitarist can appreciate. This genuine leather guitar pic keychain holder carries both standard guitar picks and wider bass guitar picks.
Smith's All Natural Leather Care Kit
Every guy needs something to keep his leather boots looking good. Smith's All Natural is a family company based in Maine, and every batch of Smith's Leather Balm is handmade from 3 all-natural, high-quality ingredients: 100% organic cocoa butter, 100% organic beeswax, and 100% pure sweet almond oil.
This high-quality, Machine Era Brass Pen looks classy and feels good in your hand while you writing. You can even get this sleek pen engraved, so it's easy to track down if it gets lost in the office.